Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Night Light for Couples - Admit You’re Wrong

Night Light for Couples, the couples' devotional from Focus on the Family ministry founder Dr. James Dobson and his wife, Shirley, brings spouses together each evening, helping them stay connected with each other and their Lord.

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins.” 1 John 1:9

It is very difficult for parents to ask their children for forgiveness. They feel that it somehow damages their authority to admit they have done wrong and promise to do better next time. But I (jcd) believe it is healthy for a mom and dad to model for a child how to apologize when they have done something wrong.

One evening years ago, I was especially grouchy with my ten‐year‐old daughter, Danae. I blamed her for things that weren’t her fault and upset her needlessly. After I went to bed, I realized that I needed to apologize. The next morning I said, “Danae, I’m sure you know that daddies are not perfect human beings. I know I wasn’t fair with you last night. I was terribly grouchy, and I’m asking you to forgive me.” Danae put her arms around me, then shocked me to my toes when she said, “I knew you were going to have to apologize, Daddy, and it’s okay. I forgive you!”

If parents never admit their wrongs, their children often remember the offenses well into adulthood. Instead of clearing the air and reestablishing the relationship, the hurt feelings are stored in the memory bank to fester. Furthermore, by admitting a wrong, the parent says on the record that things will change—that he or she will try not to make the same mistake in the future. Healthy families follow these principles of forgiveness… from the top down!

Just between us…
  • Why is it easy to overlook the need to ask our children for pardon?
  • When we ask for forgiveness from our kids, what do we demonstrate?
Heavenly Father, it’s never easy to admit we’re wrong—especially to children. Give us the courage to seek forgiveness from our kids whenever it’s warranted. May our family grow up without lingering bitterness and hurt. Amen.
  • From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

The Daily Readings for October 26, 2016

Ecclesiasticus 28:14-26
Slander has shaken many, and scattered them from nation to nation; it has destroyed strong cities, and overturned the houses of the great. Slander has driven virtuous women from their homes, and deprived them of the fruit of their toil. Those who pay heed to slander will not find rest, nor will they settle down in peace. The blow of a whip raises a welt, but a blow of the tongue crushes the bones. Many have fallen by the edge of the sword, but not as many as have fallen because of the tongue. Happy is the one who is protected from it, who has not been exposed to its anger, who has not borne its yoke, and has not been bound with its fetters. For its yoke is a yoke of iron, and its fetters are fetters of bronze; its death is an evil death, and Hades is preferable to it. It has no power over the godly; they will not be burned in its flame. Those who forsake the Lord will fall into its power; it will burn among them and will not be put out. It will be sent out against them like a lion; like a leopard it will mangle them. As you fence in your property with thorns, As you lock up your silver and gold, so make balances and scales for your words. so make a door and a bolt for your mouth. Take care not to err with your tongue, and fall victim to one lying in wait.

Revelation 12:1-6
A great portent appeared in heaven: a woman clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet, and on her head a crown of twelve stars. She was pregnant and was crying out in birth pangs, in the agony of giving birth. Then another portent appeared in heaven: a great red dragon, with seven heads and ten horns, and seven diadems on his heads. His tail swept down a third of the stars of heaven and threw them to the earth. Then the dragon stood before the woman who was about to bear a child, so that he might devour her child as soon as it was born. And she gave birth to a son, a male child, who is to rule all the nations with a rod of iron. But her child was snatched away and taken to God and to his throne; and the woman fled into the wilderness, where she has a place prepared by God, so that there she can be nourished for one thousand two hundred sixty days.
Luke 11:37-52
While he was speaking, a Pharisee invited him to dine with him; so he went in and took his place at the table. The Pharisee was amazed to see that he did not first wash before dinner. Then the Lord said to him, "Now you Pharisees clean the outside of the cup and of the dish, but inside you are full of greed and wickedness. You fools! Did not the one who made the outside make the inside also? So give for alms those things that are within; and see, everything will be clean for you. "But woe to you Pharisees! For you tithe mint and rue and herbs of all kinds, and neglect justice and the love of God; it is these you ought to have practiced, without neglecting the others. Woe to you Pharisees! For you love to have the seat of honor in the synagogues and to be greeted with respect in the marketplaces. Woe to you! For you are like unmarked graves, and people walk over them without realizing it." One of the lawyers answered him, "Teacher, when you say these things, you insult us too." And he said, "Woe also to you lawyers! For you load people with burdens hard to bear, and you yourselves do not lift a finger to ease them. Woe to you! For you build the tombs of the prophets whom your ancestors killed. So you are witnesses and approve of the deeds of your ancestors; for they killed them, and you build their tombs. Therefore also the Wisdom of God said, 'I will send them prophets and apostles, some of whom they will kill and persecute,' so that this generation may be charged with the blood of all the prophets shed since the foundation of the world, from the blood of Abel to the blood of Zechariah, who perished between the altar and the sanctuary. Yes, I tell you, it will be charged against this generation. Woe to you lawyers! For you have taken away the key of knowledge; you did not enter yourselves, and you hindered those who were entering."
Morning Psalms

Psalm 119: Zayin Memor esto verbi tui
49   Remember your word to your servant, because you have given me hope.
50   This is my comfort in my trouble, that your promise gives me life.
51   The proud have derided me cruelly, but I have not turned from your law.
52   When I remember your judgments of old, O LORD, I take great comfort.
53   I am filled with a burning rage, because of the wicked who forsake your law.
54   Your statutes have been like songs to me wherever I have lived as a stranger.
55   I remember your Name in the night, O LORD, and dwell upon your law.
56   This is how it has been with me, because I have kept your commandments.

Psalm 119: Heth Portio mea, Domine
57   You only are my portion, O LORD; I have promised to keep your words.
58   I entreat you with all my heart, be merciful to me according to your promise.
59   I have considered my ways and turned my feet toward your decrees.
60   I hasten and do not tarry to keep your commandments.
61   Though the cords of the wicked entangle me, I do not forget your law.
62   At midnight I will rise to give you thanks, because of your righteous judgments.
63   I am a companion of all who fear you and of those who keep your commandments.
64   The earth, O LORD, is full of your love; instruct me in your statutes.

Psalm 119: Teth Bonitatem fecisti
65   O LORD, you have dealt graciously with your servant, according to your word.
66   Teach me discernment and knowledge, for I have believed in your commandments.
67   Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I keep your word.
68   You are good and you bring forth good; instruct me in your statutes.
69   The proud have smeared me with lies, but I will keep your commandments with my whole heart.
70   Their heart is gross and fat, but my delight is in your law.
71   It is good for me that I have been afflicted, that I might learn your statutes.
72   The law of your mouth is dearer to me than thousands in gold and silver.

Evening Psalms

Psalm 49 Audite haec, omnes
1   Hear this, all you peoples; hearken, all you who dwell in the world, you of high degree and low, rich and poor together.
2   My mouth shall speak of wisdom, and my heart shall meditate on understanding.
3   I will incline my ear to a proverb and set forth my riddle upon the harp.
4   Why should I be afraid in evil days, when the wickedness of those at my heels surrounds me,
5   The wickedness of those who put their trust in their goods, and boast of their great riches?
6   We can never ransom ourselves, or deliver to God the price of our life;
7   For the ransom of our life is so great, that we should never have enough to pay it,
8   In order to live for ever and ever, and never see the grave.
9   For we see that the wise die also; like the dull and stupid they perish and leave their wealth to those who come after them.
10   Their graves shall be their homes for ever, their dwelling places from generation to generation, though they call the lands after their own names.
11   Even though honored, they cannot live for ever; they are like the beasts that perish.
12   Such is the way of those who foolishly trust in themselves, and the end of those who delight in their own words.
13   Like a flock of sheep they are destined to die; Death is their shepherd; they go down straightway to the grave.
14   Their form shall waste away, and the land of the dead shall be their home.
15   But God will ransom my life; he will snatch me from the grasp of death.
16   Do not be envious when some become rich, or when the grandeur of their house increases;
17   For they will carry nothing away at their death, nor will their grandeur follow them.
18   Though they thought highly of themselves while they lived, and were praised for their success,
19   They shall join the company of their forebears, who will never see the light again.
20   Those who are honored, but have no understanding, are like the beasts that perish.

Psalm 53 Dixit insipiens
1   The fool has said in his heart, "There is no God." All are corrupt and commit abominable acts; there is none who does any good.
2   God looks down from heaven upon us all, to see if there is any who is wise, if there is one who seeks after God.
3   Every one has proved faithless; all alike have turned bad; there is none who does good; no, not one.
4   Have they no knowledge, those evildoers who eat up my people like bread and do not call upon God?
5   See how greatly they tremble, such trembling as never was; for God has scattered the bones of the enemy; they are put to shame, because God has rejected them.
  Oh, that Israel's deliverance would come out of Zion! when God restores the fortunes of his people Jacob will rejoice and Israel be glad.

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The Daily Meditation for October 26, 2016

From Forward Day By Day
Written by Scott B. Hayashi

Ecclesiasticus 28:16 (NRSV) Those who pay heed to slander will not find rest, nor will they settle down in peace.

Unfortunately, many people find slanderous reports entertaining and fulfilling—titillating, even. Juicy gossip seems to satisfy a deep hunger in us—either to believe that we are better than others or to relish the embarrassing dramas of famous or infamous people. With the advent of social media, this kind of hard-heartedness has taken on a frightening uptick, revealing a vicious delight in celebrating shame, guilt, or “otherness.”

As we seek affirmation for our self-worth, we sometimes look for support in damaging places. The more we hear negative gossip about others, the better we may feel about ourselves: “I may not be perfect, but I am better than that person.”

As Christians, our self-worth is rooted in being unique and beloved children of God. We have infinite value because God sent Jesus to be our savior, and by his life and love, we have been adopted as God’s children.

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Standing Strong Through the Storm - SACRIFICIAL GIVING

In the same way, those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples. Luke 14:33

Johnny Li, a former colleague and current missionary trainer in China shares about his meeting with two young pastors there:

As I entered the house, I surprised to observe the humble existence of these two mighty men of God. They were the leaders of house churches in their provinces, which had grown the past nine years to more than 200,000 Christians. They were both in their late twenties and even though they have been in the ministry since they were nineteen their enthusiasm reflected beautifully.

Everybody knew about the work of the Lord through these faithful servants. I also knew that they both spent several years in prison in extremely harsh conditions, but nothing prepared me for this humble home and modest lifestyle.

There were no furniture items, no ornaments, and no beds in the small house. Their clothes were hanging on the wall due to a lack of cupboards. The only furniture was a table and a chair to sit on. There was a blanket on the ground that was obviously used as the bed. Together we sat down and I started questioning them about their activities and work that was bearing much fruit.

“How often do you travel to neighbouring villages?” I asked. “As often as possible,” they replied.

“Where do you obtain your finances to do so?” “We sell what we have,” they replied and supplied me with an explanation to the question about the empty house which I dared not ask. “We sold the chairs and we sold the cupboard,” they continued. “And that supplied much-needed funds for our outreach.”

“What happens when you have nothing more to sell?” One pastor looked sadly down to the ground and answered softly, “We find something else to sell.”

“But what?” I kept on pressuring them. “You have already sold everything and have nothing left to sell. How will you raise money now?” Then came the startling answer. “We sell our blood on the black market. We get about five dollars but the need is so great that we have to do something to tell the people around us about Jesus.”

“How can you do this” I asked. “How can you justify selling your blood to send out missionaries?” Without hesitation they answered, “We have no choice! The need is so great!”

RESPONSE: Today I will not complain about what I lack but think of what I can sacrifice for Jesus.

PRAYER: Lord, I reaffirm today my decision to follow You. I give You everything I am and have.

Girlfriends in God - Learning to Give Joy Away (Part 2)

by Mary Southerland

Today's Truth

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want (Philippians 4:12, NIV).

Friend to Friend

I once heard a story that offers a great prescription for joy. A young believer came to a man who had followed Christ for many years with the complaint that he had lost his joy. The older and wiser Christian responded, “Go do something for someone else. Repeat that act of kindness nine times. Then you will find joy.”

When we develop the habit of looking for a need and then meeting that need, we will experience joy as never before. Many times, instead of looking for a need, we look the other way.

One of the most amazing paradoxes in the Christian life is that the more we give, the more we receive. We simply cannot out-give God!

In Luke 6:38 we find an amazing promise, "If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving - large or small - it will be used to measure what is given back to you."

If you want joy, learn to invest your life in others. Be on the lookout for a need and meet it. God created us to share each other's load. A shared load is a lighter load.

F.B. Meyer once noted: "I used to think God’s gifts were on shelves - one above another so that the taller we grow, the easier we can reach them. Now I find that God’s gifts are on shelves, one beneath another, and the lower we stoop, the more we get."

The apostle Paul says it this way in 2 Corinthians 9:10, "For God is the one who gives seed to the farmer and then bread to eat. In the same way, He will give you many opportunities to do good, and He will produce a great harvest of generosity in you."
  • Give your time.
  • Give encouragement.
  • Give a praying heart.
  • Give a listening ear.
  • Give yourself.
  • Give materially.
The more you give, the more joy you will experience. The more joy you have, the more you will want to give. God always rewards "joy-givers."

Philippians 4:17-18 "Really, it is not that I want to receive gifts from you. But I want you to have the good that comes from giving. Your gift is like a sweet-smelling sacrifice offered to God. God accepts that sacrifice, and it pleases Him."

The idea of a sweet-smelling sacrifice is taken from the sweet-smelling incense that was burned along with the Jewish sacrifices. When we meet a need in the life of someone, it is a pleasing aroma to God and a sacrifice of praise to Him. In fact, when we meet someone's need, we are actually giving through that need to God Himself. In other words, that met need becomes a deposit slip in our kingdom account. The perspective and heart behind the giving really matters. Joy-givers please God.

Three men were hired to work on a large building project. One was asked, "What are you doing?" He responded, "I'm mixing mortar. The second man said, "I'm helping put up this great stone wall." When the third man was asked what he was doing, he replied, "I'm building a cathedral to the glory of God." Perspective is a powerful thing.

In Philippians 4:19, Paul goes on to say that when we meet the needs of others, God will meet our needs. "My God will use His wonderful riches in Christ Jesus to give you everything you need."

When we give out of our limited resources, God gives out of His unlimited resources. What a solid foundation for a life of joy!

God stands today, arms open wide, ready to pour out His unspeakable gift of joy into our lives so we can have joy … and so we can share that joy with others. Our gift back to Him is to be a joy-giver.

Let's Pray

Father, please forgive me when I am so focused on what I can get that I ignore what I can give. Help me see others as You see them, to love others as You love them, and to give like You give. May I be a vessel through which Your joy flows into the people around me.
In Jesus' Name,

Now It's Your Turn
  • Read 2 Corinthians 9:8. What does this verse promise to those who give generously?
  • Would others describe you as a generous giver?
  • What do you think the link is between giving and joy?
  • What change(s) do you need to make in your life in the area of giving?
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Un Dia a la Vez - Jesús y el adulterio

Oísteis que fue dicho: No cometerás adulterio. Pero yo os digo que cualquiera que mira a una mujer para codiciarla, ya adulteró con ella en su corazón. Mateo 5:27-28, RV-60

Dios es bien radical con el problema del «adulterio». Desea y ordena que seamos hombres y mujeres de una sola pareja. No acepta bajo ninguna razón tener otras relaciones aparte del cónyuge. Sabemos que este es un veneno que mata los matrimonios y que cada vez más se filtra en las iglesias.

Por lo tanto, nosotros tenemos el llamado a cuidar los hogares, a huir de la tentación, pasar tiempo de calidad con nuestra pareja y tener muchísima comunicación. La clave de todo esto es tener a Jesús en el hogar como base. Además, la oración individual y en pareja es una bendición y es la manera de cubrir nuestro hogar.

Recuerda que no vale la pena que por un momento de placer o por una aventura se arroje por la ventana el matrimonio y los hijos. Sobre todo, que tengamos que vivir las consecuencias por nuestros actos donde el juez supremo es Dios.

Aunque tanto el hombre como la mujer tienen la responsabilidad del matrimonio, Dios le va a pedir cuentas al hombre que es la cabeza del hogar. Si tiene la autoridad, tiene mayor responsabilidad ante Él.

Busca a tu pareja, reconcíliate con ella y arregla tus cuentas con Dios.

Verse of the Day - October 26, 2016

2 Timothy 3:16-17 (NIV) All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Read all of 2 Timothy 3

Our Daily Bread - Mending Hearts

Read: Matthew 5:1–16 | Bible in a Year: Jeremiah 9–11; 1 Timothy 6

You are the light of the world. Matthew 5:14

Not long ago I went to a seamstress to have some clothing altered. As I entered her shop I was encouraged by what I saw on the walls. One sign read, “We can mend your clothes but only God can mend your heart.” Near it was a painting of Mary Magdalene weeping in anguish as the risen Christ was about to reveal Himself to her. Another sign asked, “Need prayer? Let us pray with you.”

The owner told me that she had run this small business for fifteen years. “We’ve been surprised how the Lord has worked here through the statements of faith we have posted in different places. A while back someone trusted Christ as their Savior right here. It is amazing to watch God work.” I told her I too was a Christian and commended her for telling others about Christ in her workplace.

Not all of us are able to be so bold in our workplace, but we can find many creative and practical ways of showing others unexpected love, patience, and kindness wherever we are. Since leaving that shop, I’ve been thinking about how many ways there are to live out our Lord’s statement: “You are the light of the world” (Matt. 5:14).

Dear Father, use me to be a light today to the world around me. I love You and want others to know and love You too.

How can you be a light in your world? Read Truth With Love: Sharing the Story of Jesus by Ajith Fernando at

God pours His love into our hearts to flow out to others’ lives.

© 2016 Our Daily Bread Ministries

Unser Täglich Brot - Herzen heilen

Lesen: Matthäus 5,1-16 | Die Bibel In Einem Jahr: Jeremia 9–11; 1.Timotheus 6

Ihr seid das Licht der Welt. (Matthäus 5,14)

Vor kurzem ging ich zu einer Schneiderin, um ein paar Kleider ändern zu lassen, und staunte über das, was ich an den Wänden des Ladens sah. Auf einem Schild hieß es: „Wir können Ihre Kleider ändern, aber nur Gott ändert Ihr Herz.“ Daneben hing ein Bild mit einer weinenden Maria Magdalena, kurz bevor der auferstandene Herr sich ihr offenbarte. Auf einem anderen Aushang stand: „Brauchen Sie Hilfe? Wir beten für Sie.“

Die Besitzerin erzählte, dass sie den kleinen Laden schon seit fünfzehn Jahren betrieb. „Wir können nur staunen, wie der Herr durch die Sprüche, die wir überall aufgehängt haben, schon gewirkt hat. Vor kurzem hat jemand hier im Laden Jesus als seinen Erlöser angenommen. Es ist wunderbar, Gott an der Arbeit zu sehen.“ Ich erzählte ihr, dass ich auch Christ sei, und sagte, ich fände es toll, dass sie an ihrem Arbeitsplatz anderen von Jesus erzählt.

Nicht jeder hat die Möglichkeit, an seiner Arbeitsstelle so offen seinen Glauben zu bezeugen. Aber wir können andere kreative und praktische Methoden finden, um Liebe, Geduld und Freundlichkeit zu zeigen, wo man es nicht erwartet. Seit ich in dem Laden war, denke ich darüber nach, auf wie viele Weisen wir die Aussage Jesus: „Ihr seid das Licht der Welt“ (Matth. 5,14) ausleben können.

Gott lässt seine Liebe in unsere Herzen strömen, damit sie zu anderen weiterfließen kann.

© 2016 Unser Täglich Brot

Хлеб наш насущный - Очищение сердца

Читать сейчас: Матфея 5:1-16 | Библия за год: Иеремия 9-11; Филиппийцам 1

«Вы – свет мира». — Матфея 5:14

Не так давно я решил обновить гардероб и отправился в швейное ателье. Войдя туда, я сразу обратил внимание на плакаты и надписи, развешанные на стенах. Один из них гласил: «Мы можем перешить одежду, но только Бог может исправить сердце». Рядом было изображение плачущей Марии Магдалины и готового обратиться к ней воскресшего Христа. Еще одна надпись гласила: «Нужна молитва? Помолимся вместе».

Хозяйка сообщила, что их заведению уже исполнилось пятнадцать лет. «Удивительно, как Господь трудится через эти надписи. Как-то один человек уверовал во Христа прямо здесь. Потрясающе видеть, как действует Бог», – поделилась она. Я сказал, что тоже верующий, и похвалил ее усердие в свидетельстве на рабочем месте.

Не все могут быть такими дерзновенными на работе, зато можно найти много творческих и практичных способов проявить любовь, терпение и доброту, где бы мы ни находились. Уходя из ателье, я думал о том, как много у нас возможностей воплотить в жизнь слова Господа: «Вы – свет мира» (Мф. 5:14).

Бог изливает Свою любовь в наши сердца, чтобы она пролилась на других.

© 2016 Хлеб Наш Насущный

Notre Pain Quotidien - Guérir des coeurs

Lisez : Matthieu 5.1‑16 | La Bible en un an : Jérémie 9 – 11 et 1 Timothée 6

Vous êtes la lumière du monde. (Matthieu 5.14)

Il n’y a pas très longtemps, je suis allé faire modifier des vêtements chez une couturière. En entrant dans son atelier, ce que j’ai vu sur les murs m’a encouragé. Un panneau disait, en anglais : « Nous pouvons réparer vos vêtements, mais Dieu seul peut réparer votre coeur. » Tout près une toile illustrait Marie de Magdala pleurant d’angoisse tandis que Christ était sur le point de se révéler à elle. Un autre panneau disait, toujours en anglais : « Besoin de prière ? Permettez‑nous de prier pour vous. »

La propriétaire m’a dit qu’elle exploitait sa petite entreprise depuis quinze ans : « Nous nous étonnons sans cesse de toute l’oeuvre que le Seigneur a pu accomplir par les énoncés de foi que nous avons affichés en divers endroits. Il y a un certain temps, quelqu’un a accepté Christ comme son Sauveur ici même. C’est extraordinaire de voir Dieu à l’oeuvre. » Je lui ai alors révélé que j’étais aussi chrétien et je l’ai félicitée de ce qu’elle parlait de Christ dans son milieu de travail.

Ce n’est pas donné à tous de faire preuve d’une telle audace dans son milieu professionnel, mais nous pouvons néanmoins trouver de nombreux moyens créatifs et pratiques de témoigner aux autres un amour, une patience et une gentillesse inattendus partout où nous sommes. Depuis que je suis sorti de cet atelier, je réfléchis à tous les moyens que nous avons de vivre l’affirmation de notre Seigneur : « Vous êtes la lumière du monde » (MT 5.14).

Dieu déverse son amour en nous de sorte qu’il coule en d’autres.

© 2016 Ministères NPQ