If I were to draw a caricature of an adult experiencing a lifelong crisis of confidence, I would depict a bowed, weary traveler. Over his shoulder, I would place the end of a mile‐long chain attached to tons of garbage. Inscribed on each piece of junk would be the details of some humiliation—a failure, a rejection, an embarrassment from the past. The traveler could let go of the chain, but he is convinced that he must drag that heavy load throughout life.
If this describes your own self‐concept, realize that you can free yourself from the weight of your chain. You have judged yourself inferior based on shifting standards. In the 1920s, women asked plastic surgeons to reduce their breast size—now many women undergo surgery to do just the opposite. In King Solomon’s biblical love song, the bride asked her groom to overlook her dark, well‐tanned skin—but in our country today, she’d be the pride of the beach. Rembrandt painted overweight ladies, but now, “thin is in.”
To be content with who we are as God’s creations, we must base our self‐image on His values, not on the fickle notions of human worth.
Just between us…
- Do you ever feel like the weary traveler described above?
- Do you sometimes feel that even God couldn’t love you?
- What feelings of inferiority or inadequacy do you carry around? What would God say about your “junk”?
- Do I help to elevate your opinion of yourself, or am I part of the problem?
Lord, open our eyes to the half-truths and lies about ourselves that keep us in chains. We are made in Your image. May we affirm that beautiful truth in each other daily. Amen.
From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
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